She is Clothed in Strength

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By Linda D. Barbour (Copyright 2016)

Most often, when we think of strength we think of it in a physical capacity. The truth is that strength can come from working out and doing physical activity, but there are other forms of strength that we possess. Each human being has an inner strength that is rooted deeply within us, and when the need arises it becomes our armor that carries us through life’s trials and circumstances.   The amazing beauty is that as women we not only have physical and inner strength, but we are also clothed with an outer strength as well.  What I mean by that is that when we endure the hardships that life throws our way, we manage to handle it with grace, dignity, and beauty.

Women are clothed in strength!  How awesome is that?  Not only does strength reside within us, but it clothes us.  I oftentimes think of it as being in a wrestling match wearing a tutu and tiara, when the wrestling match is over we come out with a couple of battle scars, yet our tiara is still in place and our tutu is still intact.  It’s amazing that as women after enduring life’s battles, no matter how it may feel during the sparse when the dust settles we are still standing in beauty and grace.

Women possess a unique ability to muster up the willpower to overcome anything thrown at them, no matter the circumstance. We all endure challenges, so no matter what you are faced with today, I want you to know that you are clothed in strength and you are an overcomer. Stay in the fight until the final round, don’t quit, don’t give in, you can win because you are clothed in strength.  In the end, trials and circumstances reveal to us who we are and what we are made of.

Here’s to the woman that has suffered loss.
You are clothed in strength.

Here’s to the woman that had to start over.
You are clothed in strength.

Here’s to the mother and single mother that’s trying to hold it together.
You are clothed in strength.

Here’s to the wife that is the support system.
You are clothed in strength.

Here’s to the professional career woman breaking that glass ceiling.
You are clothed in strength.

Here’s to the entrepreneur that is blazing a trail with her vision.
You are clothed in strength.

Always remember that you are clothed with strength. Look at it like this…  It is a fixed fight, if you don’t give up or quit the end result is that you win!  So, grab your best tutu, and set your tiara in position.  YOU’VE GOT THIS!

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Embrace Change

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By Linda D. Barbour (Copyright 2016)

I’m sure you would agree that there are days when you just feel out of sync. The truth is that we all do from time to time.  This is especially true for those individuals that are visionaries, goal setters, and trail-blazers. Being an entrepreneur one thing is constant, and that is that we must be brave enough to embrace change, and dare to flourish!

Let’s address embracing change.  For most, fear and a feeling of vulnerability is often the initial reaction at the thought of change. However, most times we forget that there are some pretty amazing and far-reaching benefits of change. Let’s take a look at the good things that change brings to us.  We all encounter bad situations, bad people, and bad experiences. But… the good side of those “bad” experiences is that they all can be improved through change.  It’s all a matter of how we view them, as well as how we react to them.  The two options are seeing them as a challenge to defeat us, or an opportunity to create and embrace change.

The act of creating change can be empowering and incredibly rewarding.  Most often it is assumed that change is forced upon us, which is why most of us reject change.  Change often forces us outside of our comfort zones. Outside of our comfort zone is the place where magic can happen.  Through change, we find innumerable opportunities, possibilities, and experiences, all of which we can never imagine unless we embrace those amazing opportunities that await us on the other side of change.

The effects of change can be powerful beyond measure. It can dramatically improve our lives or our business. It can even improve the world that we live in.  Isn’t it absolutely amazing that we can grow through change? Though change, we can learn more about ourselves, and grow to be the person we have always hoped we would be; but, a better, stronger version of what we hoped for. How exciting is that? Just think… If there was no change there would be no butterflies, only caterpillars. If there were no change, we wouldn’t be able to experience the beauty of the seasons. Wouldn’t you agree that change is good?  There is definitely beauty in the process of change.

Dare to flourish!  Flourish means to grow well and to be very successful. However, that cannot become a reality if the idea of change is never embraced because change is a part of the growing process. Change brings life to lifeless situations, even when it feels uncomfortable.  When we learn to embrace change, we can take flight by earning our wings to fly.  This can only happen through life circumstances, enduring a few hardships, and encountering a few people along the way that force us to pull strength from within. It may even require going through something where it seems that we stepping backward, in order to move forward.  During these times is when we learn what we are made of.  Life’s happenstances sharpen our senses; they prune areas for us to receive the fullness and richness that our life purpose has to offer.

Embrace Change and Dare to Flourish!

Own It!

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by Linda D. Barbour (Copyright 2016)

Isn’t it amazing that no one else on the planet is like you?  You have special gifts and talents that set you apart, and that makes you, a one of a kind original.  Your uniqueness is a gift that is your born identity, and there is no one that can fill your shoes.  How awesome is that?

Many times we fail to see the beauty of our unique selves.  We compare who we are, how we look, and our achievements to that of others.  When we think like this, or operate in the area of comparison, we decrease our self-worth, our gifts, and our talents.  Also, in doing this we reduce ourselves, and we exalt what others possess, overlooking our own special unique qualities. This causes an enormous amount of pressure by living “in comparison”.  Comparison steals dreams, confidence, desire, and willpower.  Many times, we become stagnant because of trying to measure up.  We literally can get stuck in our tracks, or sit spinning our wheels with absolutely no movement.  Here’s a reality check, we will never measure up to someone else. Never!  We are not supposed to.  We are supposed to Flourish in our own uniqueness, beauty, and individuality.

What if we willed ourselves to see our beauty, and individuality? Then we would start to see ourselves as successful, victorious, and even as a gift to those around us.  I want to urge you to start to visualize yourself in that light.  There is beauty in our life stories, our failures, and in overcoming our obstacles.  There is beauty in our laughs, our quirkiness, and imperfections.  In the times when we are frazzled and it feels like we are about to fall apart… We have to remember that we possess beauty within.

Our life experiences are all a part of our purpose.  Each thing that we “grow” though, is for the fulfillment of our purpose.  Notice that I said “GROW” through?  I worded it that way for a specific reason and that is because it’s a fact.  Each time we go through a problem, encounter a circumstance, or tackle a life happenstance, we GROW.  Even when it seems like we fail.  I have a saying, “even when it looks like failure, I still win.”  Why?  It is because we were designed to grow in the most difficult of times.  So, embrace your challenges! Cultivate the mindset of “what am I to learn, through this?”  Be eager to see the growth on the other side of the trial.

So often we get caught up in the cares of life and trying to measure up to others, that we forget that we have been created for purpose; and unique qualities to be shared with the world.  In simpler terms, we have to awaken the Giant within.  The problem is, that sometimes we have no idea that there is a Giant within.  We are equipped with everything that we need to succeed.  All we have to do is OWN IT and walk in it!

I want to challenge you to OWN it!  Own your uniqueness, your beauty, your individuality, and the wonderful gift that you are to those around you.  Own it!  Own that you are different, and that’s OK because you are a one of a kind creation, and gift.  Own the fact that you are already equipped, and ready for your purpose, and all you need to do is let go, and simply OWN IT!  Own it without any apologies for being the awesome, beautiful, and unique creation that you are!

Flourish on Purpose

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You were created for purpose, and you are not here by accident.  I am a firm believer that everything that happens to us in life is a carefully orchestrated plan by our creator.  The question that I want you to ponder is: What am I going to do with the opportunities that life presents.  What do I do with my dreams and desires?

Stop right now and repeat this: I’ve been created for purpose. Say it again!!! I’ve been created for purpose.

So now that we have established that you are created for purpose, I want to motivate you to align your thinking to know that you can achieve anything that you set your mind to.  IF you trust and believe that you can have it, then it is totally possible to see it manifested in your life.  However, “IF” is an operative word… it can be what ever you decide the IF to be.  It will work in your favor, in whichever way you direct it. IF you believe it will work – you will get favorable results that work for you.  Likewise, IF you doubt it will work – you will also get results, they just won’t be favorable results that produce good things.

Decide to Flourish on Purpose! If you can think it… if you can visualize it… you can HAVE IT!

So many people say that they want success, but the truth is that many of them are just saying it with:  no vision, no road map on how to get there; and no belief system that they can actually achieve what they are saying.

People are always seeking the magic formula to success.  The reality is that there is no magic formula.  However, I have great news, I have something to share with you that if applied it will help you achieve your goals.

Here’s my formula: VISION + Belief (Faith) + ACTION = Purposed RESULTS!

If you don’t get anything else from this article… remember this:

  1. You have been created for a PURPOSE!
  2. You will need vision, belief (faith), and action in order to obtain results in your life.
  3. If you can see it… If you can believe it… then you can have it!

One must have vision in order to be able to see where they are trying to go.  Your dreams and desires are the vehicles that are going to get you there if you are willing to take action.  You also have to a road map outlined to get you there, and a belief system to carry the vision.

Look at it this way, your belief is the fuel that moves you to your final destination! And… Writing out goals, and achieving them is nothing more than the roadmap that gets us from one level to the other.

Our Goals are a series of steps that when obtained, and fulfilled, produce the end result of what you have envisioned (Your Purpose).  Otherwise, you will find yourself off course, taking side roads and detours which will delay your travel time to your destination and you’ll get frustrated and want to quit.

Have you ever been there?   I certainly have, and now when I look back, there was something that hindered my movement.  Do you know what it was?  It was me!  It was that my belief in myself, or my vision was too week to carry me through in order to action.

Vision: the act or power of anticipating that which will or may come to be.

The Word Goal means: the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aimed; the ending destination.

Envision means: to picture mentally, especially some future event or events.

Purpose:  the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.   It’s an  intended or desired result; end; aim; goal.

If you haven’t set goals for yourself, I encourage you to do so.  Goal setting is one of the key things that has to be done in order to form a pathway to success, and that will catapult you towards the fullness of purpose.

It is vitally important to set realistic milestones that can be achieved to avoid disappointments, set-backs and frustration.

I want to share with you my formula that I call “The Six Powerful P’s

They will elevate your life “IF” you apply them:

1. Purpose

Understand that you were born with and for Purpose.   EVERYONE has purpose! When you understand your purpose, you can step into it and affect the lives of those around you.   As I stated earlier at the beginning of the article: You are not on this earth by accident this is a part of your destiny.

Focus on what you can do for others to empower and enrich their lives. There are people who are looking for encouragement, and you can be the very gift to empower and enlighten their lives.  

Discover your WHY?  Your why should move you, if it moves you… it will move others to follow you! If you are not sure of your WHY… Ask yourself these questions:

  • Why do I desire what I desire?
  • What’s driving me?
  • What is it that I need?

2. Passion:  You have to have passion for what you are doing and passion to see the end result of your vision.

    • Passion for your WHY
    • Passion for people – “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
    • Passion for what you do, your dreams, and desires.

How do you know if you possess passion for something?  It’s a strong compelling feeling of love, and desire about what you are doing.  For me personally, I feel like The Flourish Network, and Flourish Networking for Women is what I am supposed to be doing. It’s my happy space, its where I feel fulfilled; I know in my knower that it is right, and it is making a difference not only in my life, but that of others as well.

3. Positivity:  Positivity is your compass that directs you to where you are going.  

Have you ever heard the phrase”what you think about you bring about”? It’s true.

Surround yourself with positive people. Most importantly – You be the positivity even if everyone or everything around you is in a negative state. Positivity is a mindset, and you can choose to be POSITIVE, or you can choose to be negative.  It takes the same amount of energy to achieve either.  When you are enthusiastic about life and what you do, it radiates and you attract people to you.

4. Patience:   Pace Yourself!  The only pressure that you have on your journey is the pressure that you put on yourself.  Remember, if you apply the formula Vision+Belief+Action you will always get to your end goal.  

Patience also applies the law of consistency, if you do something long enough it will work!  Have patience with yourself, and with others.  Remember, you are not going to always get it right the first time, and you may not always get support from others.  But keep trying.  If you allow patience to have her perfect work, in the end your true purpose will be fulfilled.

5. Perseverance (challenges, negativity, thorny’s):  Perseverance is steady, it is persistence in a course of action, a purpose, or a state of being; especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.  Will Challenges Come? Yes!

Will you have to fight against negativity? Yes! Will you have THORNY’s? ABSOLUTELY!  What are Thorny’s?  They are people that were created just to be a thorn in your side.  Remember, people are not always going to like you or agree with you. It is all OK, that’s why you were made you unique.  

You must understand that when promotion comes, persecution and resistance also come.  It’s a part of the territory of success, and reaching your purpose.  Persevere and PUSH past the challenges.  Make persistence your friend, and keep moving.  In adversity purpose is born and success is made. Keep pressing – no matter what obstacles come.

6. Process   

Understand that growth in life is a process, knowing that all things are working together to process you for success.  I have to honestly say, despite all of my challenges that I have endured over the past couple of years, when I was going through them I was MISERABLE!  But I now understand that they were a part of my process that caused The Flourish Network, and Flourish Networking for women to be created.   Likewise, everything that you have endured, and may be going through right now is processing you for your purpose.

You possess the power within you to Flourish on Purpose!

 

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